You did it again today. Now it's late, and you can't stop replaying it.
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You snapped at your kids.
Or you did the thing you swore off.
Or another week slipped by.
Tonight you keep replaying it.
You prayed about it, and somehow you felt worse.
You know the verse about no condemnation. Tonight it didn't land.
And underneath it all is a quiet fear:
maybe you're not who God called you to be.
Here's the thing.
The voice that keeps replaying it probably thinks it's helping you.
It wants to make sure you never do it again.
But beating yourself up makes it harder to figure out what to do differently next time.
After a mistake, most of us ask, "What could I have done differently?"
You can't go back and redo the moment, so that question has no answer you can use tonight.
So you ask it again and again, and you never get to a plan for next time.
The reset replaces that question with two questions that do have answers.
A guided audio walks you through both, as part of eight short steps.
The whole reset takes about 10 minutes.
When you're done, you can put it down tonight, and you'll know what you'll do next time.
What you get, free
- A guided audio, about 8 minutes, where I walk you through the eight steps.
- The eight steps on one page, to keep on your phone.
Use it tonight, right after the mistake, and again any time you can't let one go.
It is not therapy.
It is not a replacement for prayer or for the people in your life.
It is not a pep talk.
I am not a therapist or a doctor. This is a short practice for everyday mistakes.
Free. It downloads right away and comes to your email.
I'm Luke. Here is why I made this.
For years I lived by a rule I never said out loud:
if I make a mistake, I'm not awesome.
If I don't get the result, I'm not awesome.
If someone criticizes me, I'm not awesome.
I expected myself to do my best every single day.
The high standard wasn't the problem.
The way I talked to myself after every mistake was.
I'm an elder in my church. I made this reset for the moment right after a mistake, so it can be put down instead of carried into tomorrow.
Why the steps go in a set order
If you try to make a plan for next time while you're still beating yourself up, the plan won't stick.
That's why the audio guides you through it step by step.
In one study at UC Berkeley, people who were guided to treat a failed test with kindness, instead of a pep talk about how smart they were, spent longer studying for the retry (Breines and Chen, 2012).
Questions
Is this written for Christians?
Yes. I'm a believer, and I wrote this for believers. The steps themselves are practical, and nothing in them replaces prayer or Scripture.
Is this therapy or medical advice?
No. I am not a therapist or a doctor. This is a short practice for everyday mistakes.
What if this is bigger than one mistake?
If the voice in your head is telling you that you deserve to be hurt, or that you should hurt yourself, please don't use this.
Talk to someone today: a doctor, someone you trust, or a crisis line in your country (in the US, call or text 988).
If you are in danger right now, call your local emergency number.
What if the feeling gets strong while I'm doing the steps?
The reset only asks you to feel the mistake at about a four out of ten.
If the feeling goes higher, open your eyes, feel your feet on the floor, and stop.
You can try again another time.
Why is it free?
I want you to be able to try it tonight, before anything else.
If it helps, I also made a 40-minute training on why the same mistake keeps coming back. It costs $27, and you'll see it after you download the reset.
You don't need the training for the reset to work.
What happens to my email?
The reset comes to your email.
Now and then I may email you about the things I make, and you can unsubscribe any time.
Have a question?
Message me on Messenger and I will answer you myself.
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